The Fashion of Canceling, New or Remodeled? | 5 Steps to Cancel The Canceling

The Fashion of Canceling, New or Remodeled? | Facing what technology shows about us.

Welcome to A Note For A Better Life.

I just remember so many things I used to listen to when I was younger. And I cannot put myself out of the crowd. 

Of course the ugly about human is more and more out there, in our face. It doesn’t mean we are all ugliness. And this is the beauty of technology, no sarcasm here. All people that are searching to be better, need to face the collective mistakes too. Otherwise, would we notice our human flaws without technology? 

Maybe one day, but this makes it quicker to get there. 

We are not the canceling generation, we are facing the thing we were used to seeing as children, probably our parents too. 

I am not saying this is right too, I am saying, stop pointing fingers. 

I remember listening to things like: 

Who are you to say that?

You are too young to opine about it.

He doesn’t know how to use the language correctly, how can I listen to him?

He doesn’t have a degree.

What is your surname? 

You are just a dreamer. 

And there are so many more things that are so usual that we don’t realize we are practicing the ‘canceling’. Nowadays people use groups to do this, but we learn this. People hardly learn to listen and give space to the other existence, and of course, this goes deeper in each of us in many different forms. 

I saw a woman being canceled on TikTok and she was very upset because she had degrees in the subject and people were canceling her calling her stupid and all that, but for me, it was clear why. She was canceling many people for not having a degree. We don’t know everything, but when we are treated like dumb for not knowing we won’t be there to listen. (Most of us, at least). I don’t think she was an educator, so we can’t blame her for being a bit rude speaking and not knowing how to separate herself from the degrees she had, and I understand why, she worked hard to that she fells pride for them. But people weren’t canceling her in the beginning, but some ideas that are not so public made people go crazy against her and she was rude explaing it. (Even if was public ideas, nobody must know everything). Some people will disagree with the idea out of ignorance (be patient to explain) and some because normally there are different approaches and point of views in the world, even in the academic world, no matter how much you study a subject there will be people that see that in a different way and will have researchers proving something different of what you believe as though with few exceptions. (More exceptions, maybe all, are in the scientific field). 

Well, and why all this post? To say the obvious we all know? Maybe. I am kidding. 

To ask how to let go of it or not have this is your life, in our lives!

  1. There is much reason for someone to be stupid and rude, non will be because of you directly, even if the person directs the speak to your face. Guess what? Here ‘ego work’ works! When you put yourself out of the situation you notice the person had a bad day, a bad education (in the politeness aspect), the culture is different, they are very attached to be part of something, the need to get out of bad feelings putting down other, in other words, not treated psychological issues, big ego… It is never you. So relax and forget it. 
  2. If you practiced canceling on a bad day, in a bad mood. Working is yourself go back in that canceling moment and look for the trigger. Self-knowledge will grow and even on a bad day, you won’t do it again. 
  3. If you believe in one thing, if you are pro-something, study the other side. I had a teacher in college that would let you choose a side on a subject just to ask you to write against it, no matter what it was. So if you were pro-euthanasia, you should write against it and vice-versa. This taught me a lot about myself and the world.

A few days ago I learned about “spiritual” people, people that meditated and studied spirituality in the late XIX that supposedly had insights into superior people here on Earth. This idea came from a monk, a man that went to live in the woods to find knowledge and enlightenment, and another man that would study old books of different religions. Those men started to believe in the idea of a superior race. I didn’t find a connection between them but it was something that appeared when I was studying religions and spirituality in Vienna, soon I gave up to know more about that century(I canceled those crazy dead men). But that made me understand Nazism a bit more. Those ideas started to be accepted by the local elite, I didn’t find the connection either, but I don’t believe it was a coincidence. (Knowing this doesn’t justify it, just helps to avoid it). And I am saying that because if you learn both sides of everything, when is a bad thing you will know how to avoid it to happen again. And you can learn about yourself looking to the other, looking to the opposed idea, looking for what you don’t want. (We already talked about “shadow work”). 

4. Learn to listen, not just to accept or change opinion, but to give space to others’ existence. Remember you are that person too, you have flaws, you have guilts, you are no better or worse. “If its sin is great, let your compassion be greater.” Ego work for that. (Not easy, I know). 

5. Meditate. (Really Sherlock?) Well, what can I say? You need a those of calmness to be better, act better, and listen shit. 

I hope this gives you a new way to observe your mistakes and others. Canceling can be good if used to make you healthier and calmer. Cancel the mind noises and judgments and you will see the wonders.

Much Love, 

E.M. Lopes

4 STEPS TO LET GO AND START TO FLOW | THIS WILL BE HARD

Let go of materiality is hard, if they say it is not, or they don’t know what they saying, or they didn’t it right. May not be for you yet and this is ok, but if you are ready start with those 4 steps to flow

Many, perhaps all, spiritual teachings teach us to be fluid. Fluidity brings calm, lightness, that smile on your face for no reason. But one of the main steps to develop this aspect is to practice the famous detachment, however, most of us practice superficially. Let’s be serious in this blog for once and talk about it. 

We can easily understand philosophies like Taoism but live it is hard. We can understand we should give value to the ordinary and let the extraordinary come to us, detach to the material world but be here and experience it. For our mind, this is a pure contradiction however is where you will find fluidity. 

Why is this hard? 

When those philosophies talk about leaving the materiality we think about objects, mainly luxury or fashion, but it goes much further. People and animals around us in their material form are temporary too, and let go of them can be very difficult. 

Love, but don’t cling. 

This goes being the belief of souls and meeting those beings in another place. Understand that even if souls are reunited, little or nothing will keep them to go on together, everything would depend on the process of each soul. Then, if this is the truth of the beyond, it is a priority to be able to live with the idea of ​​letting everything and everyone go. 

Love, and don’t cling.

How?

  1. Imagine yourself as the creator of all this, look to your life, people, and objects around you. You created it all. You can’t stop them from evolving, learning, enjoying all the experiences. As the creator, you feel like a mother that wants the best for them, even if this means they live far away. You won’t block the path of that woman to find the person that will help her to improve you won’t stop that man from going because it is part of his process. This is a way to understand it, but can’t still be hard. You will need to find this is your process.
  2. I meditated into the love I felt for those beings. I gave myself in the meditations humbly. I imagine the best for their life, not judging the best, but seeing them happy, smiling, excited. The love grew and was simple. 
  3. In another moment, a while after those meditations into love. I practiced imagining life without the people I love in deep meditation, the reality found in meditation made it hurt and heal their lack. I cried after meditate, and I did it more them once. I’ve already lost some of these people from my coexistence, I knew how to let go (after a few tears, of course), and there was love and gratitude for the time I had with them. I am not saying this is not hard, but it is needed. 
  4. I meditated into the union. Even if you find the people you love in another life for a moment, if it’s better for them and you, you’ve gone different ways, but you’ll also be part of it, always. So I meditated on this.

 But for the sake of you, start with objects. If they break, that’s fine. If you don’t work as before, recycle, if they don’t fit you, donate. Do this with more and more frequency. 

This is a small past because I wanted to go straight to the point here. I hope this helps you. 

Much Love,

E.M. Lopes

How to Read More | Dos and Don’ts to Improve Your Reading

How to read more? How to add quality to your reading? (What I agree or don’t)

“Methinks my body is but the lees of my better being. In fact take my body who will take it I say, it is not me.”
(I believe that my body is just a shelter for my best being. In fact, let my body take whoever it wants because it is not me.) Herman Melville, Moby Dick

I was watching a video on YouTube about how to read more books. Great tips, but I couldn’t take it all.


Let’s talk about what I added to my life and I like:


One that I love and I started to use was the audiobooks. I had a preconception about audiobooks and e-readers, believe me. I was the “I need paper” person. And, of course, as I learn about my ego and sustainability I try to improve myself I search for ways to help the world and e-readers were no longer that bad, so I try to use less paper in my life. Audiobook was the next step because I could understand that knowledge is knowledge no matter how it comes. If you can learn listening it is not less than reading. We need to remember that read has its benefits for the brain, but if you read and want to grow the information coming to your life, read and listen it is a great way to do it. So I adapt myself to listen to books while I cook or before sleep and I love it. Try it!
I couldn’t agree that much.
I am reading Moby Dick and it took me a while, in the video, the idea of don’t bother to read those classics there is big made me uncomfortable because I learned so much with many of them. Sure, some I hated too. I am human, I have opinions and tastes and I can go against the majority of people sometimes. Or the critics at least. Think with me, if those books are considered classics, it must have a reason. And it is not the age of them because my grandmother had many old books there that weren’t considered classics and were forgotten with time. You can think of them as music, some music has decades, hundreds of years, and people still listen and remix them. So books, are like that music and it may take you longer to read but here we stay with the quality and not quantity. If I don’t read four books in a month because I took my time reading Tolstoy, I don’t care if at the end of the year I will read 10 books stead of 100. And here I want you to be open. Give yourself as much knowledge as you want, but remember to keep your ego away or you will be consumed by the comparison with others that read 360 books in a year. You don’t need to read more, you need to read enough. Enough for you to learn, to improve, to have a better life, to know more about what you want. You should not have the goal to know it all. It is not real or healthy.


Let’s talk about what I added to my life and I like:


After I said that, I agree with “don’t finish the book if you don’t like it”. I would recommend it better. Say to yourself, “it is not time to read it” and go back to it in few years. The guy in the video mentioned Moby Dick and Sapiens and I understand it is not easy book, the second one can be a book many people won’t like, will try again, and still don’t like it. But I would say, try more than one time in a different time of your life because there is so much on them.

Well, why all that explanation about books?


I will try to review some books that I read here with the concept of self-improvement, spiritual growth, and human knowledge, (or a vision of us). And many of the books I read are not in the self-help area, but directly and indirectly, talks about these cute little beings we are.


I WANT YOUR OPINION TO THIS:


I read all kinds of books and as an “ego breaker” I read books about different religions and cultures too. Would you like me to bring so of those books to this review too?
I just read a book about an African-Brazilian religion there isn’t in English and I don’t know if I would share it here since you won’t be able to read it unless you translate the book to English. But let me know, maybe can be curious, at least.

Much love to all,
E.M. Lopes

Expectation vs. Reality | 6 Ways to Deal with Expectation in the Real Life

Let’s talk about expectation, hermetic laws and life growth because we want to master it!!!

Hello again. 

Reality versus expectation was, is, and will be an addiction to see online. Even though all these media are in our faces all the time, we still have difficulty dealing with them in life. Have you noticed it? Just me? 

The worst part for me is when you know you expected something bad to happen and you still get upset or med. Why you do this with us? (That is the question of the time). 

So, let’s recap a few things to do or not so we can break as much as we can of those expectations, then we will make a pact. (By the way, I am listening to Alanis Morissette writing it and I highly recommend you to listen to it while reading. Because you will love or hate it and you will be able to see what do you expected of the indication). 

Expectation brings all the funny feelings that don’t help us. Stress, anxiety, sadness, and others, depending on if you pass the moment the expectation was waiting or you are before it. 

So, maybe the romance becomes a necessity, intelligence becomes overpowering, calm becomes stillness. And I will need to prepare you here for the perspective we will take. I will talk more about hermetic laws in another post, but here I will talk about the perspective of the law of vibration, the third law of hermeticism. 

But what is it? There are more laws involved, but being practical, everything is in movement, this includes you, the music that plays to you, the news on your mobile phone… And what you are will bring to you things that vibrate the same. Let’s think that everything that happens, happens because of you. That the reality you notice is yours, and yours only. We will need to take this as true here, you can and must disagree, but to this post let’s go with it ok? 

So, everything that happens is a reflex of what we are. And maybe won’t be easy for to you access everything you are, everything you received once as information. Because millions of things happen every second and our conscious mind won’t be able to show everything, so many things will be under the carpet. So, Am I saying we need self-knowledge? Yes. It is one step because if you look into learning about your beliefs and fears and all that may be in the shadows you may be able to change what you are and your reflection as consequence. Be conscious is hard, but will be the biggest step, it is a clear job of change the vibration. (I am not a fan of those exoterical words like vibration either, but let’s put the ego away to keep going). 

So we know that even if you already felt disappointed you can learn about yourself. You can stop and ask yourself why am I feeling this way? Ow, it is because of that. But I wanted this, or something similar. Maybe I don’t, maybe I fear it and this is happening. You will find your narrative with the past event and luckily learn about yourself. Am I saying that secondly, you should use every moment we feel something to understand more about what we are? Yep!

Well, but how can I avoid expectation without letting myself in complete indifference of the world? Because I know if I go here or there I am being impacted by the world and if I and doing the jog I will impact and probably get what I work for. But how to not fall into expectation before something, mainly something I want. How to want without expecting? (And that is the million-dollar question). 

Imagine this scenario:

  1. You will wake up on the new moon day and work with this energy to ask what I want. Go for it, you may imagine a crazy scene. You do your magic at the right time, with the right amount of energy. You felt assertive and happy, you enjoy the practice because you feel focused and complete. You used water or a plant, or fire or wind or all elements. Or maybe, you don’t think about all those symbols, you just set and put intention. You felt good!
  2. You wait for a sign in that same day, you look everywhere. Maybe the time will be with repeated numbers. But you looked so many times that even if it happened you doubt if the sign was real. It is night and nothing, you sleep and the dream is crazy, no clue. Maybe I should do it again. Maybe I need to ask harder. 
  3. I did, I asked harder. But I feel weird. But it will work. Nothing happens and without you realize, the expectation threw the bait on step 2 and you are still obeying it. 
  4. It doesn’t work. 

No see the scenario without expectation: 

  1. You will wake up on the new moon day and work with this energy to ask what I want. Go for it, you may imagine a crazy scene. You do your magic at the right time, with the right amount of energy. You felt assertive and happy, you enjoy the practice because you feel focused and complete. You used water or a plant, or fire or wind or all elements. Or maybe, you don’t think about all those symbols, you just set and put intention. You felt good!
  2. You feel good!
  3. You feel good!
  4. You got it!

It is the simplicity of living life that makes life worth living. I listened on the movie The Way the quote “you don’t choose a life, you live it”. When you try to be something is when you lose your life, the power of being lays in the present and can not be ignored if you want to become a master in manifestation. And, when I talk about the hermetic laws you will understand more about it. 

The anchor you find to the present moment will help you get deep in the power of being a master and not a follower, don’t get me wrong, you will still be an apprentice and this is different to be a follower. Even if you find a master out of yourself, a guru, it will keep you as a follower until you discover your power. It will keep putting you on tests until you understand recognize the master inside you, then it will be able to treat you as an apprentice.

How to be present, you asked?

  1. Music
  2. Write
  3. Breath
  4. Meditate
  5. Watch a movie
  6. Read

All those actions must be followed by attention, if you watch a movie without attention on you and in the movie change the action. You can be present brushing teeth because it has so many different sensations in this action. The freshness of the toothpaste, the temperature of the water, the brush bristles in your teeth, your tongue, and your gum, the sound of the water or in the brushing. When a simple moment like this is a moment of anchor, man, you went far! I am happy for you! 

Well, I hope this post helps you understand more what you should study and that we will only use expectations to laugh at memes online. I will recommend this book so you can learn more about this philosophy: hermeticism

Much love, 

Emanuelle Lopes

How to do Ego Work | 3 Steps to Be More You and Less Your Ego.

3 subjects that will help you see your attachment with Ego and change it. With practical ideas.

Hi.

Here I am to share something that I would love to receive. Steps to notice how your ego is controlling you and how to remove those ideas of you.
I want to be straightforward here, and before starts, I just want to remember. Ego, it is not all bad, and you don’t need to get rid of all of your beliefs or attachments at once. For example, with good and bad to our society you may want to kill someone and don’t worry about it, and here is where the ego must be alive. I am not saying to kill something crazy reader. But to stop to see someone that committed a crime as all bad and, after much more than ego work, realize how your compassion even with those people can make your life and others live better.

Things that might trigger your ego.

  1. Music. Do you love some band and hate or think some band or singer is bad or lame? Ask yourself why. This is your ego talking, you know that but since it is quite a small thing, maybe you never want to change your taste or thought it would be necessary. You can keep what you love, but for a week, twice in the year at least, try to listen to songs you would never and try to enjoy them. How? Listen to them with your mind empty, no judgments are allowed. You may not enjoy and move to the next music, and you may see yourself dance a bit and that’s ok. Even if you fear people judging you, you must not fear your judgment because towards your it shouldn’t exist.
  2. What is your team? Any sport. Maybe you don’t love any but you hate a lot one. Be honest with yourself. Write the name and ask why? What bothers you? Here I want you to search a little bit of egregore. (Just for curiosity I let one of the meanings you can find only, but study it, please. Egregore: “An egregore (pronounced egg’ gree gore) is a group thought-form. It can be created either intentionally or unintentionally and becomes an autonomous entity with the power to influence. A group with a common purpose like a family, a club, a political party, a church, or a country can create an egregore, for better or worse depending upon the type of thought that created it.”). The work here is to find a player that has a good character from the team you hate and cheer for him. Be honest here, write how it felt, it wasn’t so honest to try again. Do this when your team is not playing. After you are able, to be honest about it cheer against your team. Try to be honest here and I know this can be very hard. If your team starts to win a lot, write it down too. Write all the experience. Next year, try don’t watch it and don’t care about that news. Find another job, relax, it won’t be forever and you probably won’t have much problem with it depending on where you are in your spiritual journey.
  3. What your favorite food? What you wouldn’t eat ever? Here baby, even I can’t be that evolved with my ego. Here is where my ego stays a bit and I am ok with it. And you may think, “so I will keep with my team b*”. However, here is the thing. Any subject you work to improve your ability to be more you and less your ego, and, for this, be more aware and present here and now. Must not be a problem or cause a problem to you or others. If these passion/beliefs of yours may block different experiences, or your ability to live life in the present moment. For example, if you cannot have a date because it is game night, this is a problem. If you can’t have fun at a barbecue with your friends because you are vegan, this is a problem. And, remember, I am talking about Ego Work here. The ego likes to be in the extreme, if you can find the middle, probably you have something that can be a problem. I am walking to be vegan for years now, I still each cheese. Check packages to see if it is vegan is not a habit yet. I try to improve my way of living without becoming an extremist around any subject and this brings so many other ideas that won’t fit here. Why am I trying to be vegan? Why do I think it is important? How it will be good for me and the planet?… All that is something for me to grow. For me, it is a personal subject that I don’t want to talk about, but I see people that do it very gracefully and others that I want to slap. This personal example makes me come here and say, don’t go to war for anything, be more Madre Teresa about your ideas. You don’t need to be a saint, but you can use some good ideas of people that made some good on this planet. (Actually you can use good ideas even from people that made a lot of bad things, good and bad it is not exclusive from one person or another. We are not in a Disney movie with villains. I know you know that). So, what is the work for us here? If you are vegan, you will choose a week of the year to eat animal products, remember, this is about ego work. This post doesn’t relate to other’s spiritual evolutions that you may learn that vegan standards are better to work with some energies and all. This is to you lose the attachment of your dualistic ideas as of right and wrong, good and bad… And if you eat animal products, it will be more than a week for you. Why? The impact caused for animal products is bigger so your body needs more time to feel comfortable with other realities. I would recommend a month or more with no animal products. If you are religious, you can find the period of a year that your religion asks for this practice and use some egregore to help you. For example, for 40 days Catholics should not eat meat before East, not very common nowadays, but it was a strong practice a long time ago.

I can speak more about what I’ve learned and practice the topic. I feel this is very important to grow compassion, love, presence in our lives. So, for me, it is a pungent subject. How do you feel about ego work? What have you learned?

Much love,
Emanuelle Lopes

Ego – 3 facts they don’t share + 5 Questions to do

Kill the ego! What they don’t say about the ego? What is it? How to identify your ego?

Hello, how are you?
Today I want to talk about an insight + some knowledge gained about ego.
What is the ego, by the way? I found a few meanings to share here with you crazy souls:
Cambridge dictionary says: “the part of a person’s mind that tries to match the hidden desires (= wishes) of the id (= part of the unconscious mind) with the demands of the real world”, similarly with Google dictionary. Or “your idea or opinion of yourself, especially your feeling of your importance and ability”.
Yoga may say: Ahamkaraor ego is the sense of ‘I-ness’, the over-identification with this ‘I-ness’ to the point that we become very affected by the experiences and thoughts that this ‘I’ has.”

Let me simplify and ask 5 things. Think about each area of your life:
1.Answer Who am I?
Your ego will respond. It is the one answering and the answer itself.
-I am a father/mother
-I am an engineer.
-I am Swedish.
-I am new/old.
-I am beautiful/ugly.
You can go further:
2. Answer: What is right?
-Right/left
-Democrats/Communists
-Eat animal/Eat animal but sacred ones/Eat just vegetables
-Have a wife/Have two wives/Have none.
-Use social media/Don’t use social media.
-Drink alcohol/ Don’t drink alcohol
3. Answer: What you can and cannot do?
-I can walk/I cant fly.
-I can be loved/I cannot find someone
-I can grow and be sucessful/I cannot do something right
-I can learn/I will never learn
4.Answer: How things happen or can happen?
-I work hard/I manifest
-I let go/I get focus (obsessed?) – My life, you know it!
-I go out/It will knock at my door.
-I will make it happen/I do my best and let the rest happen.
5.Answer: How I feel and why?
-I feel happy/I feel bored -Sorry about that…
-I feel motivated/I feel stuck…

All expression of I is the ego, and only it. I already talked about the movie Soul and I highly recommend it again. You can read more about Ego in this blog and how to lessen its effect.

But let’s talk about what people don’t say.
One day I was in my German class, where I learned nothing, Ich spreche kein Deutsch don’t worry. And the husband of my teacher told me a story about a man that receives monks in his house and at the end of their stay he asked for a blessing in his life to him be happy. Six months later he divorced, lost his job, and was no longer living in that house. For my husband’s teacher, it was a terrible thing what happened. However, I understand the monks’ happiness. The first step to meet happiness is to lose the ego. A good part of it, at least. So you can meet your real self, then be happy. And this happiness wasn’t like the one you knew before. You won’t even feel it, it will be something you cannot describe in the reality, at least.
But the thing people don’t say, or it is rare to listen, is that you don’t need to let go of all your I. Nor even fight with your mind. For me, it is more important and the big first step to being aware of the ego. Answer those questions, read more about ego, meditate more, be more present and you will learn about it.
Your mind is not your enemy, you may have a big problem dealing with it. Anxiety, depression, and any mental disturbance are the name to say you have a problem dealing with your mind.
This is a blog post, let’s be real here, I will give you two things to do to start to help you, but you must look for a professional to help your relationship with your mind.
You can start here:
1.Treat your mind as a beautiful servant, not your boss anymore. Observe if your mind is saying “I must do it because of this”; “I can’t do it because of this”, “I will eat it because of this”, “I won’t eat it because of this”, “I go there because of this”, “I will never put my foot there because of this” try to observe as an outsider if your ego is trying to make you obey it, instead of the silence within dictate your will. (There are posts about will, inspiration, and intuition here too). Observe how you feel, it is just a sensation or emotion caused by your thoughts.
2.Be a friend with your mind. Some people call this confused mind, the mind that goes every place, like chaos, give attention to everything but what you want to, monkey mind. Try to be friends with the monkey. Calm down it, be grateful and it helps you, create a relationship with it instead of fighting against its nature. It is a big relief when you stop to worry about what you are thinking and start to observe it, comprehend it.
3.Kill the ego may not be a possibility. Of course, clean the house is important, have a “minimalist ego”, where most of your believes and attachments no longer exist. This is healthy and it will help you keep growing, unlocking new superpowers and that beautiful way of living. And, maybe won’t be easy, probably to be honest. But it worth it.

I hope you enjoy this post,
much love.
EmMa Lopes

How Differences Arise and How not to Polarise them | A Insight Dream

I had a dream where be different is the only way to survive. And if it was truth?

Hello again.
Today I will do something different, something I never did. If you read my blog, you know that I already talked about night dreams and how you can find online tools that Neuroscience knows to train yourself to remember them and develop others’ skills towards these moments of unconsciousness. Well, that said I remembered many of my dreams, and a dream yesterday made me have this need of sharing it.
I already said that all beliefs and situations we live in just say something about your reality.In other words, even if you live something, don’t think it is the only truth, even less the absolute universal truth. And here I start to share this dream:

A young woman, maybe 2 or 5 years younger than me, a man that I felt the existence but didn’t see and I was on a stage, something like a big theater where we were sharing some insights. She was talking about her experience of serving and how this humbled people and it was a great way to achieve this simpler way of living and experience life.
In my conscious being remember the dream, I agree, but in the dream…

She happily finished her talk, and I said very calmly.
“Well, that’s not all correct. Each experience, each being will have your own way of discovering Itself. Maybe it is a great adventure serve, but receive is the great difficulty we have. It is here where the hardness may humble us. Many people will find happiness while they serve something or someone, but receive is where many developments can be made. Of course, since it is different for each of us it may be just my experience on this planet that happened differently since for me was very hard to feel good receiving something. As if I was God myself, I felt like I should take and create all by myself. All my years of faith were suddenly unnecessary because when I should gratefully receive I felt less, guilty, not worthy of it, or that it wasn’t necessary. The serving was easy for me, in completely honest I know one could feel better serving someone with less something this material world stipulates, or a few less if I was serving someone with more of this. Money, beauty, properties, friends, fame, feelings control, “illumination”.”Whatever it is that one can feel the other has or is more or less can make the service put one in a different position as one sees oneself. But I can say I felt the same, equal, easily. When I served, it was with grace. When I had less, I receive more because my equal feeling made me honestly devoted to doing my best, when I had more I didn’t expect to receive something because I was genuinely serving the other. But receive… Receive was another thing. When I did a good job and I was awarded I felt stupid to have to be rewarded, when I receive my asking for God I couldn’t feel like it was right because I didn’t work with my hands to that when I receive from my own job, I felt like it was too much and even if something was wrong I wouldn’t complain. Even working hard, studying hours, improving myself constantly, I wasn’t worthy to receive. When I see someone openly receiving something and being honest with one development I feel so happy for the person, praying that one day I will be like that. I don’t mind when someone smart receives its glories and says “I know I did a great job” when someone becomes a music start I don’t think it wasn’t humble the person says “I did it, I feel awesome that I didn’t give up”, when someone beautiful says “Thank you, I know I am” I feel that it is amazing that the person receives this blessing of God openly. We all should receive those gifts openly because we all can achieve something, we all can thrive without giving up, we all are beautiful creatures of Father… And Mother. (Small laugh in the public). So, we can learn to be humble in many different ways. Your inner Master and the only one you should follow and hear taught you to be humble through service, my Master taught me through receiving. And now and here in this stage, the world is balanced. (we all laugh a little).
Any time you think someone is arrogant because the person assumes its own gains, gifts and rewards ask yourself why can I not feel “Yess… You go man”? Are you pushing God’s gift so hard that you feel jealous of those that accept? Do you think that the person receives too many too easily? Are you jealous? A better question? Are you able to receive it? (silence)
Good, silence always brings new insights.”

The other woman smiled at me. She was in her grace I could see. The talk continued while I shifted to another dream, but this one I won’t share.

I hope you have a blessed weekend.
Much love from me, EmMa Lopes

3 Mislead ideas of Do what you are Passionate, What you Love and What is your Purpose | Yes, you can do it.

I heard one shouldn’t say that we can follow our passion. Your purpose. Do what you love. But they have know idea what is this

Hello again.

Today I want to talk about live the purpose life, do what you love, live to do what you’re passionate about, because once more I listened someone saying people that talks about live the purpose or do what your passionate about is b…

I understand the mistake. Living a purpose life is something hard to understand (not being ironic here) because you was distorted along the years. Do something with purpose is do something because you want to, there is will in this action. I know we are used to do things that we don’t want to. Things that is just bureaucracy or you know, any daily chores. However, live your life, your whole life, doing what you don’t want to do is quite alarming for me. So I thought we could talk about Passion, Love and Purpose in the work area.

Passion: So let’s start talking about do what you passionate about because passion is a feeling, a sensation as a result of something or some one. And sometimes or maybe most of time you’re working or doing something with purpose won’t let you feel passionate. It doesn’t mean you won’t feel good though. You don’t need to feel just passion towards something you are doing you can feel joy, you can feel happiness, you can feel love, you can feel comforted, you can feel gratitude. Passion in the carrier idea is to do something that maybe you dreamed about as a child, maybe something you was told about younger. I have a great example to give. Do you know the TV Show Masked Singer? Can you tell how many great actors, hosts, basketball players and so much more people can sing very well. We believe that sing well is something rare, paint, act, any profession that is more artistic but any human being have an artistic, creative side. Imagination is one of the things some scientists use to separate us from other animals. So, it is normal to work in something and think that other thing is your passion, but you never lived to know. Sometime, people don’t use their free time to do it. So, work around what you think your passion is.

You can start your life in college doing what you’re passionate about and don’t feel so great later on life doing that. Our passions change, and should, must change along the years. I will quote (wait for it) hold on on your chair Cardi B on it. “If you in college, I don’t give a f— what you studying, take a business class“. Study business because if you start something you is passionate about someday you won’t like to do it and probably you will want to work for yourself so take some business class, no matter what you do instead business because one day you can Be your own Boss. So do what you are passionate about can be something quite wrong to start but do something that make you feel good whatever the feeling is. Don’t take a feeling as granted, do a lot of things that make you feel that way.

Love: Sol let’s talk about love. It may sound that is the same as to work for something you are passionate about but it’s different. Do something you love, once again can be almost impossible because you won’t love something always, and here I won’t talk about all kinds of love but let’s have in mind that I’m talking about these material world feeling not the big Love. The one that you are on essence and there will become or go back after this material being is ended. I would say more, instead of do what you love, do what you do with love. That action will bring you passion, happiness, joy and many many good feelings around things you are doing.
If you ever volunteered you know what is to do something you love, but don’t be passionate about it. Here you don’t have the passion, (being general), but you have purpose and love. You purposely are doing this work, maybe you don’t enjoy cook everyday, but sometimes it is part of what you do to help and you do it with love. And you love to do it. I hated my last job, that is normal I know, but I felt love many time when I was helping and creating something better. So, work with love can work if you are passionate about it or not, if it is your dream job, or not.

Purpose: Follow your purpose, so what this even mean. I tell you! (I am jumping in my chair here). Live a purposeful life is to leave doing what you really want, what you is true for yourself. For example I have many dreams, I want to do many many things in this earthy life, and in this process I may be disconnected, unconscious and feel frustrated, feel bored. While I am learning, while I am practicing, while I am editing what I write. But I did because I want to I choose something and I learn it and I went for it because I want to. And these for itself make you follow your Passion do what you Love. But I feel like all these is a misunderstanding because people think that there is just one way to be happy, to fulfil your wishes, to do something with pleasure and more than that. People don’t understand that good or bad feeling, as they call, are just feelings. If you don’t resist to sadness, it won’t hurt anymore. These feeling will be just an alert for you bring your best to the table or for you a knowledge something you don’t like.

Since I love examples let’s do one now. If I feel frustrated with my husband I ask myself why I’m feeling like that. I share with him as a interesting thing. I say “I feel frustrated because that and that you did I’m not saying you cannot do this but I’m saying that I don’t feel good for some reason”. And most of time he helped me to see if he did something that go against some conception I have or if he have done something that he can improve and change. I always made clear to him that a feeling will happen with or without his help. That most of time he will need to give me space to work on it alone and other times I will share with him.

I will try to give you a more easy example to understand and visualize. I am frustrated in a queue in the supermarket so I asked myself why. Probably because I feel like I am doing nothing productive there. Or nothing I enjoy like watch a movie, read. So, if I can, I find a book to read, something to listen, or maybe just aware of this I try to be present and observe and meditate. As I already explained meditation is not just to be sitting with close eyes. Then the frustration goes away.

I just thought about a better example. I felt frustrated watching these YouTube video of a guy talking about not falling your passion, your purpose. And I asked me why. The answer was easy. There are no truth around this how you should chose your work and carrier. There are different moments in your life you will need to take the decision to accept whatever while you get what you want. But I was thinking there are people that are unconscious and think that the only way is to do what other people say not what they really want. There are conscious people that prefer to play as the music then do something different and that is nothing wrong with that. Even in astrology if you have the archetype of Taurus, speaking generally I am using just as an example, they think Taurus like to work hard everyday under the sun to accumulate what it have, and it will and will be easiness with money but working all day. And this person will be great on it. It will be on alcoholic and love it. And that’s okay that’s not a problem. The problem is to think that this is the only option. So I was frustrated because that wasn’t a truth and I wish to share something bigger to think about. Maybe just when we are unconscious we will live without passion, love and purpose. The consciously you just can live on those things and more.

And to calm down my frustration and yours maybe. I will finish this post saying that I cannot save the world neither you but we can share better opinions and have a better world, so please share yours with me and if you have a work online please let me see and share your link. And I already talk about this theme and I said that sometimes we will do what we don’t want while we do what we want as a hobby until one day we can find something that unite both things what make us money to pay the bills and what make us feel good.

I hope you enjoyed this post, much love from.

EmMa Lopes

Age equals be Wise? | How to find your master – Step 1

How old should be my master?

Hello again.
Today I was thinking about age, but for a specific thing. How old you should be to be wise, to share knowledge about deep things like soul, live a better life, honor your body, mind, and spirit.
Many therapists, psychologists, coaches, mediums, psychics work with just one part. (And you will probably affect other parts of you). But I am not talking about those professionals. I am more interested in the prophetic, guru, master kind of wiseness.
For some reason, I feel like I used to look for older people. And, of course, I realized that my ego pushed me to it because I learned from a young age that older people were the wise ones. What I didn’t learn was that many young people too, kids either. And probably this elder person was always wise, but just older people listened to it.
Maybe it is even wiser older, maybe it won’t need to teach more, and we lose a great time listen to good words from someone we were just judging by the age. Like you could judge that an older person is not so athletic… Well, you got me here. Ego work, all ages are wise and move one.
So, how to find them? Who are they? Is there an age? A calling? Or we all are called but most of us just “Nhe… not now” in an unconscious way.

Studying Jesus, Budah, Gandhi, and so many other people who start to teach early I ask myself. Were they special because they started young to see the world differently? Or did they see the world differently because they were special at a young age?
I was 14 when I was conscious for the first time. I felt things, still feel, that are amazing and so hard to put in a word. I can’t say I don’t feel comfortable sharing it, (and I would love people wouldn’t too), because I know this knowledge that comes to me is the same that “talks” with everything. It is not me, mind, name, body, that I work into humbleness, but the emptiness that we call connection, union, love.

After leg goes of those concepts of age I learned with so many people, through so many moments that I heavily think that what you should listen will get you. Even an animal can show you something. And this is not craziness or new, some people use birds to know things. This reminds me of the book The Alchemist when he is in the desert observing the sky while a man looking to learn with the desert master was bravely “fighting” with materials all up in his mind.

So, I let you here with the thought of stop looking for a white-bearded master and look inside even when you looking at the sky.
Have a great week, trying less, and being more.
Much Love,
EmMa Lopes

Why Law of Attraction and Manifestations talks are boring sometime? | But I keep doing

Why sometimes it is boring talk and read about manifesting? Is it normal? Is it real? Does it work?

Hello again.
Why do we love to talk about manifesting, the law of attraction, the secret, be present, live a love life, and all that jazz?
As an spectator I get bored I must confess. I have some videos, and I still think there are too many people recording the same stuff, bless them all, but sometimes I get bored. We see words coming and going trying to explain, for me, the same. But why we all love to do it?
Have you already manifested or noticed that something happened as a result of a belief? It may not be a conscious creation.
Do you want to scream to the world what happened or “It is true!”? I get you, me too.
However, think about yourself without conscious fighting day after day. Would you feel terrible listening that “it is easy”, that it doesn’t need so much “blood”? I ‘feel’ people that can’t listen about those things anymore. I feel like we are sellers of something that won’t make us money, but we do want to share it. (ok, some people does make money talking about those things)

So, all that made me think there are two reasons why we love to talk about it?.
First, obvious and not very useful to other MOST OF THE TIME, money. You invent a new word like “mindset” (I use it, it is important to change your mindset, but it is a new word, it is), a practice (I did it all), write a book (not about this, you can find me on Amazon 😉, record a video(meditation, my manifestations… I did it all. Well, no monetized, maybe one day), and maybe you will get some money (I did, but not with this).
I don’t think make money with it is a problem. Why I don’t think this is a problem? I am glad you asked. At some point, you will help at least a person, yourself. And one more happy people it is a bit of the world happier. Some people, that don’t know much but want to share their experience won’t cause harm to anyone, and one person believing in a different practice will create a belief and be happier too. I don’t see why not. I see people sharing beliefs that just suffering you will honor what you believe in and for me this is the problem, but those people talking about “do this and receive money”, “do that and find a boyfriend” won’t destroy the world.

A second reason to talk about it is because it is so much fun (and I am not saying your life become a musical, but… almost that). You want to share it because it is awesome. You even imagine everybody dancing in the streets because you shared that practice, that little knowledge. You want the world to have fun, looking like everyone have a fun soundtrack following their lives. I would love Adele sing, not writing, my life.

So, why is it boring sometimes?
Yep, I just called manifestation, the secret, and all that I talk about boring. I love you 2020 your crazy ‘darling’!
Let’s focus.
I already shared here that a few years back I had manifested everything, I traveled through Europe, I lived abroad, I wrote my first book, finished college… So I asked, “Universe, teach me how and why we manifest.” It was simple like that. In the first moment, I was overwhelmed with books, talks, people teaching about it. So I asked to learn less maybe it would be too pretentious of me to know all that. And for me and everyone that is reading I can affirm you. It is pretentious to learn everything about it, and it is not pretentious to know everything about it. And that is the part that many people say: “The knowledge is within, but most of the time you can’t put in words” You will be pretentious trying to be this master to others that knows it all, but for sure you already know it. It is boring to watch people talking about the basics because consciously or not, you already know it.
And it is quite simple to make this, (manifestation, the secret, law of attraction and be hapy, interesting again, go deeper. Start to read books you judged as silly, topics you never thought about. Be critical, observe, make your tests. Read about alchemy, hermeticism, other religions, not to change your faith, but to understand it. I already shared that I am catholic, and I deconstruct everything before understand what I was learning. You can learn about psychology, philosophy, and so much more. Start with your ego won’t fight much judging as sin or something like that. But try, please try because I still want a world with people dancing in the streets like a musical.

I leave you here for today, share what you think, what works for you. It always adds something up to us.

I will share those links that help me and you with books I recommend to start.

Way of the Peaceful Warrior: https://amzn.to/3fRwoQQ

The 4-Hour Workweek: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich: https://amzn.to/37U5QeN

Reality Transurfing 1: The Space of Variations
https://amzn.to/3aRfFtR

Reality transurfing. Steps I-VReality transurfing. Steps I-V
https://amzn.to/2KOHfxi

The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham: https://amzn.to/33f5kGc

Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires: https://amzn.to/39N7jDT

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment: https://amzn.to/38MF8Uq

A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose (Oprah’s Book Club, Selection 61): https://amzn.to/2Q8Xit2

Neale Donald Walsch – Conversations with God Trilogy 3 book set RRP £29.97 by Neale Donald Walsch (Paperback): https://amzn.to/2W5RPqE

The Magic (Secret (Rhonda Byrne))

Many Lives, Many Masters: https://amzn.to/2vPVsGB

Autobiography of a Yogi (Self-Realization Fellowship): https://amzn.to/38O1ZPg

The Tao of Warren Buffett:
https://amzn.to/3bSNCuT
https://amzn.to/2xPMl9a

Dali Lama Meditations: https://amzn.to/3bc37xE

Paulo Coelho Book Collection: https://amzn.to/2veRPth

The Goal: A Process of Ongoing Improvement: https://amzn.to/3ixuoPI

The Pilgrim, Paulo Coelho: https://amzn.to/2TMJqHc

Bible for young people (I recommend it for everyone): https://amzn.to/2xvILB3

Bible (Pink cover with space for notes): https://amzn.to/2wT6TNC

Bible (More classic): https://amzn.to/38O0Ln8

[Tarot decks I use to meditate]:

Osho Zen Tarot: https://amzn.to/2QaPy9U

Gypsy card(a bit different than mine): https://amzn.to/2W6e1B1

And my books:
*The High Priestess: https://www.amazon.com/-/pt/dp/B086RTHVF9/ref=
*A Papisa (The High Priestess): https://www.amazon.com/-/pt/dp/B07Z5LYX51/ref=
*Um Chá e Um Café: https://www.amazon.com/-/pt/dp/B07JYJZJV6/ref=

Much love,

EmMa Lopes