Why Law of Attraction is not Working?

What do you know about conflicting beliefs? It makes the law of attraction useless


What are your desires? And what are the ‘buts’?  The Law of Attraction won’t work with conflicting beliefs.

For a long time, I watch Marisa Peer online, but a few days ago I saw an interview with her and I got more curious about her work. So I did the research and I subscribed to her channel. 

Marisa Peer, and many spiritual professors, or motivational people, or coaches, whatever they call themselves or you call them. They teach about the same thing in many different ways and every time they inspired me. And, when I say teach the same, don’t get me wrong, I am just saying they want to help people to be better, to have a better life. Each of them learned and share it in a different way, and they are beautiful. 

Inspired by her, I thought about my beliefs and my, however, as she teaches. What I love about her is that she makes those examples very clear to a point many people struggle, and for sure if I don’t struggle now I used to or maybe I will again someday. 

I will give you some examples, I love to work with examples, we all know that. (I know, I become predictable, but bear with me). I want to share some contradictions I kept with me that I saw it wasn’t helping me to achieve my goals. 

  1. I want my books to be famous. x I don’t want to be known, I pitty celebrities with no privacy. 
  2. I want to be rich. x I will need to learn more about investing, maybe invest in different things, or know someone to trust my money. Oh God, it is too much work. 
  3. I want a relationship. x I can’t see myself married, people become all we we we, it is boring!
  4. I want to lose weight. x Biscuits are fattening.

I can give you more examples that I saw her talk about or my family and friends. Like…

  1. I want to start my own business. x I can’t do anything right (after breaking a simple glass). 
  2. I want a boyfriend. x There is no good man. 
  3. I want more money. x I can’t trust rich people. Most of them are corrupted and bad people. 
  4. I am manifesting this new car I saw. x I hate my car. 
  5. I want to be healthy so I can travel, walk around, go to parties. x My mother had that, I have it too. I was already suspecting it. 

There are so many more things we say to ourselves, and I truly believe, like Marisa Peer points out, that what you say to yourself is highly affecting your life. And conflicting thoughts are the worse because it can get people that never listened about mindfulness or consciousness and people that did and know their thoughts are not so healthy anymore. 

And for the last one, the question What am I doing wrong comes when nothing changes. You think you are clear about what you want, but you keep those contradictions on your life. 

What we can do to start to move the wheel is to change those beliefs and desires into affirmations, like…

(I know, more examples) 

  1. I love my work and I work with what I love. And I love people talking about it. (Live a comment 😉
  2. Being rich is so much easier to deal with money and investments. (phone number $$$)
  3. I love myself and I have fun with the new guy. (Love urself, I probably would love u)
  4. Thank God I am not a cookie. (Don’t be so serious)
  1. I am resourceful and skillful with everything I do. (My type of guy)
  2. (I sent my girlfriend to therapy, but I will try with this one…) I had a bad past, but I know people are different. And I love myself anyway!
  3. (Family problems, this one). I have a great boss and she is the prove many rich people are caring and good.
  4. I am grateful because I have transport to drive. 
  5. (My sign is a virgin. I am kidding because I can relate) I am a puzzle piece to my doctors, I am always healthy in my routine medical checkups. 

Well, I hope this list can help you and you are not bothered by those jokes. (I know you aren’t because you know just your ego can be bothered, mainly with things are supposed to make you feel better). 

I want to share this point of Marisa Peer about conflicting thoughts because many of our beliefs can’t be seeing easily and sometimes we think we are in the right energy but the stuck feeling keep saying we are not quite there. And correct a word in a cliche you believe can be enough to change your life. Once again, the spiritual path, manifesting, living a good life is simple but can be hard on us. When you think something is bulls* because it is obvious, or simple, or silly, SAY SOMETHING. Because many people already went through it, it can help you and you can help people sharing what they think is “silly”, “too simple to worth talk about”, “too obvious, just I didn’t see it”. Please, share this post, share other people’s post, talks, books that might help others even if some bully says it is nothing, you are dramatic or whatever. 

I know be vulnerable is hard, that’s why I didn’t work on my Youtube channel properly, it is hard. But keep going, keep improving yourself, keep sharing and we will “take over the world”. (Pinkie and the Brain Nostalgia). 

EmMa Lopes

Stub the toe morning. How to restart your day no matter what? | EmMa Lopes

Have you ever had those bad morning starts? I give you a example and what can hppen if you keep yourself in this bad energy.


You wake up easily, it is early, you feel good because you wake up with time to enjoy you morning before work. Then, your beautiful toe makes a turn and jump on with all its strength on a wood or metal object. You are practicing mindfulness; you know that can’t disturb your energy if you don’t want to. But you want to feel mad just for a minute, you are human, you are allowed to it.

I don’t know you, but I decided that I would take what would come. “I will feel a bit angry with the situation because I want to”. I wasn’t asking “God Why?” or cursing something. I knew it was just a feeling. So, I went to cook my lunch, “No salt baby” laugh the universe. I did anyway, when I put in my backpack, “Ops, not in here” and half of my food was on the floor. But this is not a text of hate.

When I was going to my job I decided: Ok, I am done with the negative vibe. So, I started meditating, I was feeling bad… not so bad… ok, good, back to my joyful normal. I felt the love that you can find in the real present moment. I am still in this energy. It feels very good by the way.

Out of the situation and looking back to it as an observer I notice and learn a few things.

First, maybe most importantly. When you are in a continuum attention on what you think you can stop and decided in a freckle of second how to feel about it and potentially impact the next moment. I took this decision on a small thing, this provoke me to understand that in a big scenario it could not change a moment next, but my life. Imagine if I suffer a big accident, the emotion I put on as reflexion of how I decided to act on it could change my life for better and for worse, (in a bilateral human condition of good and bad). We have a lot of example of it in a point that I am writing here make me think how this text is relevant. But feel and pass through a small example make me understand in a deeper way. (Not that this was my first suicide toe, but maybe the first one I am more conscious).

Secondly, I noticed that my ego was as a beast crazy to take the control of the situation. It was an animal without being feed for a long time trying to take a bite of the moment. I try my best to feel free to feel this energy and don’t give it the control. It was a weird sensation. It was like have something with equipment where the energy couldn’t be stabilized, had strong ups and downs. When I gave a bit to ego, in a second I was questioning myself and affirming that I was sad, “Why am I sad?” “Why this is happening” … But I observe it. After the meditation I was 100% in control and I could understand the power of unconsciousness and ego. If you are learning and beginning be attentive to your thoughts, relax. This is a grow moment, a moment of experience, a moment of science where I put myself in test to understand and observe more of myself. You probably will go through it differently. Relax.

And I observe that this energy impact my lovely husband. He felt agitated and forgot if he closed the doors and taps before leave in the morning. I talk about the practices with him, he tries but he still in his step of “I can’t do it”. I’m practicing since I am 14 years old, I am very aware of this be a process that each person will pass in a different way and time. I could see how my energy impact him. In other words, be aware of your thoughts, feelings, then energy is important for everything around you, not just you.

Maybe you can think about and write down a day or moment where you feel good and some unexpected good thing happened. And a “suicide toe” day, that bad thing happened. It will help you be more rational and analytical about you on life. As a 2% (or less) material life and 98% of energy life.

This text can be completed with a text I wrote a few days ago about living with easiness without be a control freak of your thoughts. Even if you try to imagine a life where you need to know everything you’re thinking is tiring. Practicing what the real secret is you can make easier to live the best life as I explained here

Learning to restart you day is the first thing I think you should learn in this consciousness/mindfulness process. I learned most of this with the Russian Vasin Zeland in his book Reality Transurfing. You can find it as a audiobook too. I recommend you take some notes of this and observe the theory, don’t discard or accept as the only truth. (As everything in life). In this book you will learn this jumping out a bad energy, moment, or pendulum (as he calls). And conscious you can drive you through your thoughts and energy to the point you want in life.

I can talk a bit more in other moment, but I recommend this book or search to ways of get out a bad energy.

I hope this helps you.

EmMa Lopes